Hayes and Jeffries use an auto-ethnography approach to analysing and unpacking their own experiences of what they label as ‘romantic terrorism’. To start with, the authors, who are both academics in the field of criminology, need to be congratulated on their courage to disclose and utilise their own experiences of intimate partner violence (IPV) to illustrate the concept of romantic terrorism and its power in entrapping victims in an abusive relationship. The authors use records of journal entries, text messages and emails written and received throughout their abusive experiences, along with their own recollection and that of other key informants for a multilayered analysis of abuse and recovery. The authors further describe themselves as colleagues and friends and incorporate each other as key informants into their analysis.