The Good Mother portrays a new kind of conflict for the growing
number of single mothers in the Western world in the late twentieth
century; tracking the fall from grace of newly divorced
"good mother", Anna Dunlap. The struggles and adversities that Anna
faces expose the persistent disavowal of mothers as sexual beings in the
late twentieth century, despite the alleged freedoms won for women in
the wake of the feminist and sexual liberation movements. In this essay,
I argue that The Good Mother has continued relevance for modern readers,
as it broadens the debates around the persistent ideology of asexual
motherhood in its presentation of mothering as an erotic experience,
one that shares a number of parallels with sexual eroticism and desire.
I reveal how Miller’s novel provides a provocative disruption of the
borders between mothering and sexuality in a way that brings to light
the issues that silently sustain many of the cultural anxieties surrounding
both of these aspects of female experience. I argue that in challenging
the cultural requirement of suppressing the component of eroticism
in the mothering role, Miller’s novel calls for an alternative, expanded
understanding of both sexuality and motherhood—one that considers
the difference in construction, representation, and experience that may
occur if sexuality, eroticism, and motherhood were considered through
a maternal lens.